Romantic Life & Long-term vs. Short-term Orientation

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Romantic things always seem far away from who I am. I'd describe myself as quite pragmatic–roses, love songs, or love letters hardly move me. Maybe 5 years ago I'd have been touched, but now I'd rather get something practical as a gift, like a good meal. 

Though I've never been in a relationship, I found our answers to the question "which of these do you think is a stronger sign of love between partners" interesting. More people chose "talking openly and honestly", while the rest, including me, thought "being able to notice or guess your partner's needs without words" shows a deeper bond–almost like soulmates reading each other's minds. After all, emotions are not easy to express directly. But don't get me wrong, I value open and honest discussions too.

Lastly, about the long-term and short-term orientation. Both China and Japan are on the long side, and I do see a lot of similarities between us. We tend to downplay achievements instead of showing off, unlike most short-term orientation societies, which seem more confident and proud. From what I learned from the video: Hofstede's ideas match my personal experience well, and perhaps explain why I find some "love expressions" overwhelming.

Let's call it. Thank you for reading.




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  1. Emiliano2025年6月30日 23:14

    Thanks for your post was amazing reading you
    I also as last class we talked about, share the same opinion on being more conscious about our partner and taking in consideration without putting pressure on her/him.

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  2. Aboodi2025年6月30日 23:20

    I think it depends on where you are from when it comes to being able to easily express emotions or not, in my experience many of the asian countries I've been to(outside of the Middle East) tend to be more reserved and more subtle but in the Middle East we tend to be more open and I find that to be easier personally because sometimes you think you might have read someone's mind but you in fact didn't so it could make things awkward.

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